In this article, psychologist Evgenia Dvoretskaya answers the question “Why do you dream about the same man you like?”
This happens quite often if your relationship is not consummated or this person is thinking about you or will appear in your personal life again. Usually, people appear in our dreams for a reason, even when it seems that the relationship between you is over.
In fact, fate gives you some kind of sign through them. This is what a dream means if you constantly dream about the same familiar person. Note whether he is currently alive or not. This is what dreams with your friends, colleagues or acquaintances most often mean.
Someone you are friends with, communicate with, or work with
If your relationship with him actually exists and it is not completed, such a dream often shows that he appeared in your life for a reason. Usually, an acquaintance with whom you often drink tea during a break or just chat without touching on emotional topics, often dreams at the moment when he thinks about you, remembers, but this does not always mean a positive result of communication.
Often seeing his face in a dream, although you are just drinking tea during breaks, means that he is looking closely at you and may condemn you for some actions or misdeeds.
If you dream of a person with whom night scenes practically repeat daytime episodes, then for some reason he plays an important role in your life, but you do not notice it. Or something in the future will be somehow connected with him. Often a dream shows that he is thinking about you, maybe there is a secret crush or just a desire to get to know you better. Why does a woman with whom she works or simply knows him as an acquaintance dream about the same man?
This dream speaks of the beginning of attraction between them, the manifestation of love or initiative, as well as business cooperation.
Pay attention to what he does or says. Just seeing him quite often in a dream is an indicator that he is thinking about you.
If you yourself begin to take the initiative in a relationship, kissing him, why is this a dream?
The dream book writes that such a dream means your desire, which is gradually growing. Also, modern books indicate that such a dream predicts joy, good news, and also the fact that you can really have an affair with him.
However, kisses and sex scenes may have a slightly different meaning in reality than in a dream. And if he promised to marry, this does not mean at all that this will actually happen.
Quite often, dreams of marriage mean a business proposal and new cooperation, but the fact that you start fighting with pillows or hugging or arguing in a dream can be the beginning of love.
Someone you haven't talked to for a long time
If only because this person rarely appears on a social network or you are in a quarrel.
If you saw his face several times in a dream, then such a dream often means that he is thinking about you and remembering you. Modern books indicate that in fact the relationship between you is not over yet.
This is due to the fact that soon or not, he will appear in your life again, even if at first glance it is completely unlikely.
Therefore, the modern dream book indicates that very soon your relationship will become better or he will remind you of himself.
Although you often dream for years about someone with whom you thought the relationship had ended.
However, remember that in reality this is not the case, and even after a few years, you can meet. If you broke up for some reason and because of you, then perhaps this person remembers you. Or, as before, he dreams of a meeting.
If you dream of a deceased acquaintance, you must remember him in the temple. Sometimes such a dream indicates that you need to complete some old task.
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Signal of illness
A number of psychologists believe that this phenomenon is a signal of the development of the disease. This way the body lets you know about the danger. What kind of diseases? These are the heart or blood vessels, oxygen starvation of the brain, and disturbances in lung function. An unpleasant dream is repeated on the eve of a deterioration in health, at the time of exacerbation of the disease.
In any case, you should analyze your mental balance. It is important to understand what worries you, then it is easier to get rid of anxiety or rethink your life. It is also important to listen to what our body “tells” us: pressure surges, headaches, heart pain, dizziness. If such symptoms exist, then movement, proper nutrition or seeing a doctor will solve the problem.
Nightmares cause dramatically negative consequences on our lives. The causes of nightmares include fear and anxiety. In turn, this causes sleep disturbance, and sometimes even insomnia . Remember your actions when waking up after another “unsuccessful” dream, did you fall asleep quickly after that, and did you sleep at all? As a result, you feel physically exhausted throughout the day, which in turn causes stress. Let's first look at the cause of nightmares, and only then start getting rid of them.
The Myth of Nightmares
There is an opinion, quite widespread, that nightmares visit people only in childhood, and this is a childhood problem that goes away over the years. Is it so? Statistics will help us understand this. 10% of people have woken up from a nightmare at least once in their lives, but from 2% to 8% of people, to put it mildly, are not at all lucky, suffering from chronic nightmares.
Differences between nightmares and ordinary dreams
Most often, nightmares occur during REM sleep. This is precisely the reason that we experience them in the morning. In fact, a nightmare is a terrible, frightening dream. Also, a nightmare remains in your memory longer than a normal dream and it will not be difficult for you to remember it. Sometimes a nightmare can be so realistic that even after waking up, a person needs time to realize his presence in the real world.
What do you dream about more often?
As with most things, it varies from person to person. What dreams you see depends only on your environment, your thoughts, age and many other factors. However, it is possible to identify dreams that occur more often than others. Most people are familiar with dreams where someone is running after you or you are falling into some kind of abyss. Also, it is worth mentioning that people who have experienced tragic events tend to see them in their nightmares.
During the time spent studying the problem of nightmares, many studies have been conducted to understand which ones are more common. Psychologist Michael Schredl from the Institute of Mental Health in Mannheim surveyed over a thousand people over 16 years of age who experience nightmares several times a year and found that 40% of people tend to feel falling in their dreams. The next thing is the feeling of persecution. 26% of people in their nightmares feel like a victim of persecution.
Given the research data, we can conclude that there is a certain number of common fears that are significant for all people.
Causes of nightmares
In adults, nightmares are spontaneous, without any good reason. But exceptions are possible, for example, various psychological problems: stress, depression . Also, tragic incidents, events caused by the loss of loved ones or other equally important factors play an important role. To this conditional list, you can also add infectious diseases, lack of sleep, and even sleeping in a place unfamiliar to a person can become an equally significant reason.
Getting rid of nightmares
Knowing the causes of nightmares, you can begin to remove them. Let's look at these steps:
- improve your sleep conditions by adjusting your sleep schedule. It is recommended to fall asleep and wake up at the same time. Also, sleep should last at least 8 hours;
- Medicine has succeeded in treating many unpleasant reactions in the body, and sleep is no exception. The use of this method is quite rare, but in some cases it cannot be avoided;
- Stress is one of the main causes of nightmares. Therefore, if you get rid of stress, you will obviously get rid of nightmares.
So don't be alarmed if you occasionally have nightmares. But if you start having nightmares too often, seek help from a psychologist who will help you identify the real cause of nightmares.
We react to every event during the day by experiencing certain feelings. And it’s not always possible to take time, be alone with yourself and analyze everything that happened during the day. Life changes rapidly, and we experience strong emotions every day, both positive and negative. Therefore, at night, people can slow down and press pause, plunging into the realm of dreams. And sometimes dreams, as projections of everything we think about, help reveal accumulated feelings, accompanying dreams with strong emotions almost every day.
Comments:
I've been dreaming about the same person for a year now. We haven't communicated for a long time, I haven't seen him for 5 years, but for the past year, I've been dreaming about him every day. What could this mean?
It often happens that the same person regularly appears in a dream. Often they become a distant relative, an old acquaintance, or a completely unknown person. If such a vision is repeated over a long period of time, you should pay special attention to it. After all, in this way the subconscious sends signals to the dreamer and points to something important.
Why does the same person appear in a dream?
Regular dreams involving the same person were interpreted by both psychologists and esotericists. Their opinions differ radically.
From a psychological point of view, recurring dreams involving a person may indicate the following:
- If you dream of someone you know or a relative, most likely the dreamer really misses this person and dreams of meeting him. Often, someone with whom the dreamer is secretly in love comes into dreams, but due to the fact that there cannot be a relationship with this person in reality, the subconscious tries to get what it wants, at least in a dream.
- Dreams about the same person may indicate the inner fears of the sleeper. A recurring dream image comes to help the dreamer recognize and deal with his own problems.
According to esotericists, regular dreams in which the same character is present have the following explanations:
- The dreamer and the main character of the dream have a karmic connection. Perhaps in past lives these people loved each other or were spiritually close.
- The dream may turn out to be prophetic. If a person always dreams in the same circumstances, you should pay special attention to this - perhaps the same thing will happen in the dreamer’s life.
- A familiar person who regularly intrudes into dreams may need help from the sleeper.
- Repeated dreams can also be a sign that the dreamer has picked up some entity that feeds on a person’s emotions.
Mystics say that if you regularly see the same person in a dream, it means that he cast a love spell on you. Also, someone whom the sleeper once influenced using magic will appear in the dream.
What will dreams tell us?
Everyone knows that we spend almost a third of our lives sleeping. Psychology has long been interpreting dreams as a way of the subconscious to help us solve many life issues that we cannot understand, showing a dream full of emotions. There are nights when you dream about a very emotional plot and it seems as if you were not sleeping, but were a participant in some kind of movie. Although, as is known, according to scientists, we see some kind of dream for only a maximum of ten minutes before waking up.
If it happens that in a dream you see the events of the past day with strong emotions, it means that your subconscious is trying to suggest some kind of answer to solve the situation in which you are now. And the more vividly a person experiences any feelings, the more unstable his psyche is due to life circumstances that he cannot change. Therefore, psychologists believe that almost every vivid dream affects mood to one degree or another and is a marker of a certain emotional state. The famous dream interpreter Sigmund Freud believed that the nature of a dream emotion can only be considered in conjunction with a person's temperament, and this is the time of his interaction with the inner world.
Who comes in a dream
To more accurately understand the meaning of a recurring dream, you should interpret it depending on who exactly visits your nightly dreams.
If a person who is well known to the sleeper intrudes into the dream, it means that in reality the dreamer has romantic or friendly feelings for him. Also, such a dream may indicate that the hero of the night vision is constantly thinking about the sleeping person.
Are you dreaming of an acquaintance with whom communication has long ceased? Such a plot may indicate unresolved issues the dreamer has with this person. Another interpretation says that in this way the old comrade is trying to convey something to the sleeping person.
A person from the past constantly appearing in a dream indicates that it is necessary to leave the memory of him and live with new events
The constant appearance of a stranger in a dream can seriously frighten a person. However, to understand the meaning of such a vision, you need to pay attention to the mood of the main character:
- a friendly and positive stranger may turn out to be the dreamer’s guardian angel;
- an unpleasant person from a dream may indicate the psychological trauma of the sleeper: perhaps he experienced some bad events, the same as the hero of the vision.
If a stranger says something in a dream, you need to try to remember the information - it may contain a hint for the future life of the sleeper.
A recently deceased loved one who constantly appears in a dream indicates that the dreamer was never able to overcome the loss and still thinks about the deceased. If the hero of the dream died quite a long time ago, it means that the sleeper, on the contrary, forgot about him. In such a situation, it is worth going to church and lighting a candle for the deceased.
Often the appearance of a dead person in a dream is a sign that you should reconsider your views on life.
Deceased relatives often appear in dreams when the sleeper is going through a difficult period in life. You need to be attentive to such visions, since relatives are able to help with advice, even if they are in the next world. Also, the deceased can give signs through dreams, for example, that they should pay attention to their health or pay more attention to loved ones.
From a psychological point of view, if a loved one comes regularly in a dream, it means that the relationship with him is not clear. Perhaps the sleeper is not satisfied with the current situation, something irritates him or does not suit him. Also, such a vision reflects the constant thoughts of the sleeper about his loved one - after all, what you think about in reality often comes true in dreams.
An obsessive plot about a former lover may mean a warning against frivolous behavior
Do you see your ex-lover in your dreams every night? The dream speaks of sexual and emotional dissatisfaction. The sleeper lacks the emotions that were present in past relationships. Also, such a plot may indicate the feelings that the dreamer still has for his former lover. If there are no emotions left for your ex, everything is fine in your current relationship, but your past love regularly appears in your dream, which means this person wants to tell the sleeping person something important.
How to get rid of an intrusive dream
Dreams in which the same character appears should be watched especially carefully. Any detail can become a clue to the mystery of this person’s arrival in a dream. Most often, such night dreams indicate an invisible connection between the dreamer and the hero of his dreams or unresolved issues.
There are many theories regarding the nature of sleep, ranging from the most ancient and fantastic to the pragmatic and realistic. So why does it happen that people often dream about the same person? There is no exact answer to this question. It will differ depending on who you ask it to. Psychologists will offer their own version of interpretation, esotericists will offer a completely different one. No one can give a definite answer to this question, so we will consider several possible interpretations of such a dream.
How to stop annoying visions
Frequent dreams with one person can cause different reactions. If such dreams cause feelings of depression, sadness, confusion and other negative emotions, then an attempt should be made to stop the night visions.
You can try the following options:
- Change of environment: sleeping in a different room, on new linen, at a different time, etc.
- Conversation with the person who is dreaming: try to find out all the questions of interest. With an unfamiliar person - get to know each other better, start communicating. If you dream of a stranger, before going to bed, mentally ask the question what he needs from you, perhaps you will dream the answer.
- Dream taking notes: write down the essence of your dreams after waking up, it will be easier for you to mentally switch to a new image.
