- August 21, 2018
- Relationship
- Sergey Severny
The office romance between a boss and a subordinate is by no means a new topic and is already well-worn. In certain companies they treat this extremely strictly, condemning any attempts to move into the intimate plane of relationships, in others they turn a blind eye. But if in real life everything is more or less clear, then why dream of sex with your boss, especially if there is no subtext to such a development of events? It is quite possible that this is due to the intimacy that can exist between these two people? The article will tell you how the subconscious mind communicates with a person and what to expect from this kind of signs.
Prophetic dreams: a hoax or a reason to think
Perhaps it will not be a secret to anyone that thinking can be conscious (the generation of images under the direct control of the mind) and subconscious (hidden aspirations, wishes, ambitions). Often a person is not even aware of the existence of a second “world” of his thoughts, dictated by desires and experiences hidden in the far corner of the soul. They appear in dreams, dictating the will and warning of impending danger.
Why do you dream about sex with your boss: psychologists have revealed the secret meaning of erotic dreams
Erotically, dreams can be very pleasant if the object of your passion appears in them, and even shocking when the main characters are bosses, friends, former lovers or, God forbid, parents. Psychologists say that you should not perceive such pictures directly, nor should you be afraid of them. Often, experts say, sex dreams have nothing to do with sex as such.
Thus, specialist Ian Wallace warns that if you dream of a passionate night with an ex-boyfriend, do not rush to look for his number in a notebook hidden in the far corner. No, this is not a signal to start all over again or to arrange a “farewell” act of love in memory of the old days. On the contrary, such a vision is a plea of consciousness. Don’t repeat past mistakes, it screams, never meet him again!
Sleeping with your boss in a dream most likely means striving for his position in his career. A kind of signal-call to engage in self-education and development. You probably dream of power, not a connection with the boss, and need to realize your own ambitions. The same applies to an old friend or a completely unattractive, in your opinion, neighbor - when you see them in a dream, you don’t need to, you know, try with force, you know what. This only indicates the need to give vent to aggression.
“People get terribly worried and confused when they have sex dreams. In fact, these dreams are a reflection of what worries us in our real life. And how passionate we are in our dreams reflects our willingness to meet the challenges of real life,” Wallace told The Sun.
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Russian psychologists agree with their foreign colleagues. Psychotherapist and head of the psychosomatic medicine clinic Artem Tolokonin, for example, considers eroticism in dreams to be a consequence of overcoming some internal barriers. And the heroes of dreams act as symbols of your true desires, aspirations, which are extinguished by circumstances or indecision.
“The boss personifies a new stage of development in the social and personal sphere - your psyche opens a layer of internal passionate desires associated with career growth and financial well-being,” Gazeta.ru quotes Tolokonin.
Often, erotic fantasies in a dream indicate a desire to be noticed, to be the center of attention, to express oneself. Therefore, at night, images and plots of forbidden relationships come - with the husband of my best friend, for example.
A stormy meeting with a former classmate, a long-time boyfriend or, in general, any person from the past, consultant sexologist Maria Kirillova is sure, this is a kind of therapy, a reminder of the unpredictability of life - consciousness thus helps to remove taboo topics from the agenda and replenish emotional resources.
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But sometimes sex still speaks of its lack in reality.
“The body finds a way out of this situation because it needs release, which comes through erotic dreams. Remember the orgasms you experienced in your sleep,” says the expert.
A subtle point: the people you see in your night dreams in an erotic setting still somehow appeal to you, Kirillova believes. But this attractiveness is not based on the call of nature or falling in love, but on the presence of certain qualities, character traits, and material indicators that you secretly want to have yourself. For the boss it’s power and money, for the neighbor in a stretched and dirty T-shirt it’s unshakable self-confidence.
What if a heterosexual woman dreams of another woman? Does this really mean that she has been suppressing the lesbian inside her all her life, so well that she doesn’t know about it? Sexologist Kirillova hurries to reassure. The point, she believes, is a person’s subconscious interest in everything that is forbidden and condemned in a certain society. So you probably don’t need a sexual partner, you just need to expand your boundaries a little. And then how it goes...
Previously, 5-tv.ru looked into whether it is possible to determine by a man’s hand what he is like in bed.
What to pay attention to
There is no exact algorithm for sifting out useful dreams from erotic fantasies or dreams caused by emotional overload and stress. However, some details are still worth paying special attention to, namely:
- forced or voluntary. An extremely important element that influences the entire interpretation of the dream in the future. It is important to write it down and reflect on it;
- presence of third parties. In the question of why you dream of sex with your boss, it is important to pay attention to consolidating information, in particular, whether the sexual intercourse was public, at work or in an intimate setting;
- whether the owner or owner of the dream enjoyed it;
- the presence of other details, including conversations, household and household items, equipment.
Often, one additional detail determines how the entire dream will ultimately be described. According to the dream book, sex with your boss can be interpreted both positively and negatively, the main thing is to correctly compare the facts.
Degree of emotional stress
This is especially true for girls who are susceptible to hormonal imbalances. The stronger the emotional stress on a person, the higher the chances that such stress will transform into an unpleasant dream. Problems at work may have a subconscious association with rape, since the poor girl does not know how else she should try to avoid having her brain “raped.” If the dream happened with a fresh mind and without any subtext, then you should think about it. It is quite possible that the dreamer will soon experience significant changes, including those related to work.
Lack of experience
The first and simplest explanation in the dream book regarding why you dream about sex with your boss is complexes generated by insecurity in your position. A person who has such a dream often doubts whether he is actually fit for his post. Complexes of this kind receive rich soil for growth and ultimately manifest themselves through the subconscious. In fact, having sex with your boss in a dream means that a person needs to put things in order as quickly as possible, try to join the team, after which the problem will be solved by itself. At this stage and with such a problem, we can only advise you to feel more confident, because a position is not given just like that.
Why dream about having sex with your boss, dreaming about sex with your boss in a dream
If you dreamed that you were talking with your boss, then in real life you will experience a lot of anxiety and excitement. If you received a reprimand from your boss, a profitable deal will take place in reality. For a young leader, this dream foretells great success in all matters.
If you dreamed that you yourself became a director, you will soon be taken by surprise. You may have to fight to implement plans that are not destined to come true.
If a young woman sees her boss naked in a dream, then her financial situation will not improve much.
If you dreamed that you were with your director in an informal setting, then in reality no one would help you in a difficult situation. You have a very strong opponent and circumstances are not in your favor.
D. Loff wrote about such dreams: “Relationships with your boss in a dream can have two interpretations.
1. A loved one who is not related to your work, such as a spouse, sibling, parent, or close friend, becomes your boss.
If someone from the “non-work” environment becomes the boss, most likely you believe that this person puts undue pressure on you and controls your life too much; with your tacit permission, relations with this person move into the plane of dominant control on his part. The setting for such a dream can be either a place of work or a completely ridiculous setting. And the place where you and your new boss work is associated with an area in which you experience excessive control on his part.
2. Consider the reverse transformation - your boss becomes your brother or sister, spouse, or someone else who is completely removed from the role of a service mentor.
If your boss barges into your personal life in the guise of a loved one, perhaps it’s time to evaluate your work: workaholism is the destroyer of many families.
If your work has filled the space reserved for other people in real life, it's likely time to evaluate the emotions invested in it. A positive aspect of such a dream could be the collegiality it portrays, or a warning about the depletion of emotional resources caused by your work.
In conclusion, if you dream of your boss in a familiar work environment, it means that for some reason you are under stress at work. Generally speaking, dreaming about your work - especially if it is an unremarkable dream in the present time period - is a sign that you are overworked or are not coping with work on time.”
Careerists
But if everything is the other way around, and it is the boss who is the “victim” of the situation, then it is very likely that the dreamer will soon experience career growth. This is dictated by a biased attitude towards the very idea of an office romance. Therefore, to the question of why you dream about sex with your boss on the initiative of the employee himself, the answer is quite simple - career. It is quite possible that this intimate subtext is not present at all in this situation, and the employee honestly and openly earned his promotion through initiative and, for example, original ideas. But the subconscious of the same insecure individual believes that this particular person does not deserve gratitude and demands to “work it off”, even if this means seducing his leader.
Too much time spent working
According to the dream book, having sex with your boss in the office and on a regular basis means too much concentration on work. The workaholic is so closely connected with his family that the subconscious tries to transfer his personal life directly to the work process, as a result of which this kind of dreams appears. You shouldn’t think that the boss is going to seduce such a responsible employee, you just need to rest more, find a permanent partner and start a family. This will allow you to reduce your concentration on the work process and calm down your life rhythm a little, after which your dreams will be soft and kind.
Sex with a woman
Why dream of sex with your boss if the dreamer is a girl and her boss is female? In this case, you need to work on self-esteem. It is important not only to change your attitude towards yourself, but also to demand this from everyone around you. If the employee continues to be ranked lower than any other employee, the complex will only intensify. An intimate connection here plays the role of a direct association of respect, strength, power, as well as an attempt by an insecure employee to take all this for himself.
Why does a guy dream of having sex with his male boss? The situation is similar. You need to “tighten up” your masculinity a little and, for example, invite your manager to a barbecue, fishing or hunting. Such a dream does not mean at all that the employee has lost his heterosexual orientation, but encourages him to take more careful care of himself and determine his position in society.
If you dream of an unexpected meeting with your boss
If the dreamer unexpectedly encounters a boss on the way, it means there is a lot of work ahead. And you will have to forget about rest and entertainment for a while. But you should not be upset about this, since the employee will be fully appreciated and rewarded for his hard work. In addition, work will very quickly give way to rest.
If the dreamer unexpectedly meets a boss on the way, it means there is a lot of work ahead
Memories of the past
Why do you dream about sex with your ex-boss? It’s simple, the employee was simply satisfied with his previous place of work and was much more eager to do things under the leadership of his ex-chief. In this case, it is recommended to think about whether it is necessary to devote time and effort to a workplace that is completely unsuitable for a person. This can be difficult to understand consciously, but for the subconscious there are absolutely no barriers of this kind. Demonstration of sexual intercourse with a former leader is a manifestation of an allusion to the prevailing mutual understanding and harmony in the team, which was lost after the dreamer left. It’s worth calling your former colleagues, meeting over a cup of coffee and discussing business, then the subconscious will calm down.
Interpretation of sleep in detail
The factors of correct interpretation are the nuances that took place in the dream:
Pay attention to when you had the dream:
Former boss in a dream
The appearance of a former boss in a dream speaks of unresolved problems or excessive efficiency and troubles on the personal front. If you do not feel support from a loved one, then such a dream signals a clear desire to acquire an understanding companion. A heart-to-heart conversation with a former boss indicates a lack of self-confidence. A truce with the boss in a dream promises an improvement in relations with the enemy.
If an acquaintance appears as your boss, this means that in reality he has a negative effect on you and is considered an indisputable authority.
Male boss
A male boss who comes in a dream predicts a number of difficulties in work situations. To overcome them, take fears and negative emotions into your fist. How easily you overcome troubles will show your readiness for other serious tasks and, accordingly, a rise in your career ladder. Find the positive in the current situation and benefit from it. Correct analysis of omens will certainly guarantee success in other endeavors.
Female boss
A boss in a female form symbolizes uncertainty in communicating with the opposite sex. If a woman dreams of a boss, it means that the other one is tormented by doubts about her own attractiveness. A man is afraid of losing his authority by losing to a woman in an argument. A conversation with your boss in a relaxed atmosphere predicts unexpected financial success or favorable news. Another interpretation involves meeting a gorgeous woman or man, depending on the gender of the dreamer.
Arguing with your boss in a dream (angry boss)
If your boss swears in your dream, it means you have problems in life. These are troubles both at work and in relationships with family or friends. Another interpretation promises an increase in salary or a disagreement with the boss in reality.
When a close person acts as a boss, it means that you have a strained relationship with him in reality. He brings discomfort into your reality, strives to subjugate you. A very angry boss is an omen of the beginning of a dark streak in life. Reconsider your relationships with colleagues and work companions. Maintain subordination in tense moments, control emotions and smooth out rough edges.
To be in trouble and problems
If the dreamer is looking for an answer to the question of why he dreams of sex with his boss in an informal setting, for example, at that house, then most likely there will soon be problems in the workplace. This is primarily due to the idea that bad news prefers to be communicated face to face, outside the work environment. Consequently, the dreamer will face a lot of problems that cannot be solved in one fell swoop. Having received such a warning, you should think first of all about the moral aspect of preparation, after which you should face the unpleasant situation head-on and solve it at once.
Why do you dream about a director - Freud's dream book
When you dream about a director, the dream may signal that you have a comfortable, peaceful life in your waking state and you feel completely comfortable in the situation.
To dream of a director hugging you means that you are over-promising and this can make you feel very disappointed later.
If you dream of a store director, the dream tells you that you will have a fleeting but pleasant romance.
As our dream book interprets, if you dream of a drunk director, this is a sign that you are ready to experience a love affair, or maybe you are waiting for it.
You dream of a male director, which means that in the near future you will have a pleasant time with friends and family.
A woman dreams of a director, which means that she is trying to hide her shortcomings from a person and does this to the best of her ability.
In a dream, you dreamed of a director who scolds you; the dream may announce farewell to financial problems, not necessarily for you, perhaps for people from your immediate circle - family or friends.
Quarrels in the team
Office romance is almost always condemned by colleagues and, in their minds, means the desire of a particular person to move forward up the career ladder by any means. This may or may not be true, but the answer to the question of why you dream about sex with your boss will be a quarrel in the team. Most likely, the instigator will be a real moralist who will accuse the employee of ingratiating himself and trying to get through in a “dishonest” way. The only possible advice in such a situation is to take the blow with dignity, remain calm and try to smooth out the situation through discussion.
As you can see, according to the dream book, having sex with your boss almost always means problems and difficulties. Despite the negative connotation of the dream, it is worth thinking about the current state of affairs, but not falling into despair. Ultimately, if you only dreamed of this once, then, most likely, someone is just in a spring mood, which should not be spoiled by negativity.
What else could a dream in which a boss was present mean?
The situation in which the dreamer and his boss find themselves in the dream is very important. For example:
- The dreamer finds himself in his manager's office. Top management begins to ask many questions to which the sleeping person cannot find answers. This dream means that the dreamer will find himself among strangers and feel like a stranger among them.
- If in a dream the dreamer submits a document for signature and the manager signs it without looking, it means that in real life new hobbies will appear that will not only make leisure time varied, but also improve your financial situation.
- Hearing criticism and scolding from a higher-ranking person means a rapid descent down the career ladder.
- Drinking alcohol with your boss is a cash bonus at work.
- The dreamer received a highly paid position - in reality he may be demoted.
Beating or killing a leader means getting a small bonus in real life.
